Success Stories

Name: Rebecca Long
Place: Atlanta, United States
Year: 2 year(s)
Distance: 423

So i met my boyfriend on this site called interpals.net. Its a place where u can find ur own penpal from everywhere around the globe. Well I was taking spanish 2 years ago and they have a language exchange selection on there. I decided to look and I found a very handsome looking guy on there that was from the states. I clicked on his picture and i messaged him saying hello and stuff with a flirty smiley face. We talked for a little bit but he didnt seemed interested in me so i thought he had a girlfriend. But we did talk a lot when we did. He was a very refined person. So anyways we went for a while not talking to eachother and maybe some random messages every once and a while. but about a month ago he messaged me and we started talking again and he had to go somewhere but gave me his number so i texted him immediately and he also put his facebook thing on there too so i added him and we started texting and flirting and he thought i was this ugly girl apparently that had the same name as me but once he saw my picture he said i was beautiful. he made me blush so much (still does). But then he stopped texting so i decided to surprise call him just to hear his voice. I press the call button and there were 2 rings and then he picks up and i hear the most loving calming voice ever i literally melted. He told me i was the most beautiful girl in the world i told him he was the most handsome guy in the world. we would just flirt back and forth with these texts. well one day i told him i liked him and he told me he liked me back and i was so happy but then he said he liked me liked me and i just put a smiley and same. I knew then that we are meant to be together. I was shy with him a lot so when he called sometimes i got quiet (i talk more now). A couple of weeks ago we were texting and he says but u dont love me do u? and i told him no i do i really do love you. i started getting butterflies in my stomach and my heart was pounding. He told me he loved me back. So now whenever we talk on the phone we usually say i love you about 5 times. He is going to college this year and he was supposed to go to Mexico this year to help be a translator for a mission trip but they canceled it. his trip was supposed to be after my birthday which was yesterday and i leave for camp tomorrow so i thought it would be easier for us to be distracted on our stuff so that we wouldnt go crazy missing each other. I told me and he got really really quiet so i decided to write him a love letter so that he could have me there with him without the texting and messaging during the day. I am going to miss him so much but its camp and its only a week. Im going to marry him he already calls me by his last name. If your reading this i hope your relationship goes as well as mine is :)

Name: Bart M
Place: Nijmegen, Netherlands
Year: < 1 year(s)
Distance: 2000

Nearly two years ago my girlfriend signed in on a writing forum where I was the administrator. We started role-playing together, coming up with the most bizarre and bloody stories. I was in my senior year of high school at that moment (17); she was in the senior year of university (20).





I needed help for my English exam and she agreed to help me. We started talking, on Skype but mainly on msn. We made plans for our story characters and talked about everything. We became close friends.





The changing point in our relationship came when she was taken into the hospital. We were talking on msn and she felt bad and coughed up blood. I and other forum members urged her to call the ambulance. It was a stressful time for the both of us. Her boyfriend basically left her to rot and her parents didn't come (later she found out her boyfriend had told her parents it was nothing serious). She managed to take her phone in there so we kept chatting on the internet. So in a way I was there when they told her she had an infected kidney and I managed to calm her down.





Our relationship really became solid at that moment and I helped her through the recovery and many other things. We agreed to meet in the summer (the first time flying for me, because she lives in England). On the fifth of July we met for the very first time.





She was still with her boyfriend at that time so we kept our relationship on a friendly level (Although it was very hard because we had become close). I met her boyfriend, her flatmates and her parents. I was present at her graduation and we walked in parks and danced in the rain. It was a confusing time. I knew she loved me but I didn't give in. I lived in the Netherlands and I was her junior by 3/4 years. She was in a committed relationship and would lose all her 'friends' if she left him.





We met again in October, this time she came to the Netherlands. This time, I just gave up. We took long walks and got lost (due my bad navigation), she met my parents, grandparents and siblings. On the 27th of October I had my first kiss under a tree. It was a perfect and very romantic moment.





We shared many kisses after that but tension started to rise between us. I kept our relationship a secret out of fear of what my family would think and I didn't want to be a fling. She couldn't have two men in my opinion. My family found out anyway (my sister’s friend saw us kissing and ratted us out) but did not judge me.





The problem was that she and her boyfriend were living together and she wouldn't just lose her friends but also a lot of money (due to the rent) and if they broke up she had to remain living in the house with her ex for a year because the contract lasted so long. First she wanted to stay with him until the contract was over. Then the pressure and guilt became too much for her and she broke up with him.





We have been an official couple after that, although we keep the date of the 27th as the day our relationship started. She moved back to her parents, her ex boyfriend found another girlfriend in less than a week (but broke up with her soon after).





I came over for Christmas with one day delay because of the terrible snow tormenting Europe. I was with her and her parents for nearly 2 weeks, which was another awkward situation. Her ex-boyfriend was still stalking her and her parents with text messages and I got compared to him constantly. If she hadn't been there, I would have left the house screaming.





She came here again in February and later to take care for me after my operation in March. Then I came to visit her again in May. The situation was far different than it had been during Christmas. Her parents were nicer, her ex was wiped out of memory and I felt far more welcome.





We have been together for around 7 months now and our future is really unclear at this point. She can't speak Dutch and I am still in college, the age difference isn't helping here. I am considering to study in Scotland so we can live together enabling us to make equal sacrifices considering neither one of us really wants to leave our families and homes but there are many regulations and conditions so it will take at least a year.





Now we have silly fights because we miss each other so intensely. We both don't want to have a long distance relationship and are trying to find ways to be together. Today we stared in each other eyes for an hour on the webcam and just cried. It’s really getting hard. We will see each other again during summer and then she will try to come to the Netherlands for about a month.





I want to marry her, live with her and have children with her and she wants the same. But we have troubles being apart for so long and I can’t bear the thought of waiting another year(!).

Name: J. K.
Place: Cleveland, United States
Year: 3 year(s)
Distance: 150

We dated for over two years and it was time for him to go to college. We had always lived in the sam neighborhood and eventually became closer friends rather than just acquaintances. He's a year older. He went to college about 2 hrs and 45 minutes away, and brought no car to drive home. We planned to see each other on holidays and hoped that I could drive out on a weekend every once in a while if possible. Schedules clashed and it was hard to plan times.

I honestly thought it would not work and that he would find someone else because I was not there. I didn't not trust him, I was just afraid he'd find himself attracted to someone else and break the relationship off with me.

Now that our first year apart is finished, it's summer and we have three months together until I go away to college as well, and we'll still be apart--I'm going to school a little over 3 hours away. But now we're planning on his driving to see me because I can't bring a car this time.

We're confident that this will work and are willing to do whatever it takes. We plan on a future together and the distance isn't even scary anymore. But that doesn't mean it's not difficult. Sometimes it's just hard that we can't physically be there for one another to give comfort and hugs, or just to listen...sometimes the phone makes serious conversations more difficult.
We now KNOW that this will work and have no doubts, but we do have another 4-5 years of long distance because he is getting a 6 year degree.

One thing you need to do in a long distance relationship is rationalize. Don't let the little things make you worry to much. That strained the relationship the most and was when we would get into the most arguments...we had never had a fight until he left.

It's crazy to me that this worked out because I got a lot of doubt from my friends and family. People don't think that loving somebody from far away is rational and that its doomed to end. What you need is a friend that either has gone through the same thing or is willing to sympathize. I only got through this the way I did because one of my best friends was there for me more than I could ever ask of her. She knew that I needed someone and stuck there. You need support from people near you to help keep he relationship going.
To call yourself lonely only adds to the pain. Make sure you have fun away from your partner as well.

This is the hardest thing I have ever done, and I'm not nearly as far away as many people on this site. Although it's been hard, I have never been happier. We've grown closer by being apart and appreciate each other more. I think that even though it was painful, it realy deepened our realtionship a LOT.

Best of luck!!
Even if you're hesitant, try it! It's worth a shot :)

Name: Tiffany Fleener
Place: West Allis, United States
Year: < 1 year(s)
Distance: 858

My boyfriend and I met online a year ago. We talked for a long time. I liked him right away, and Im an impulsive person so I asked him a week later if we could be together. He declined because he had a girlfriend at the time. So, we remained friends who were madly in love until October 25, 2009. He asked me to be his and I said yes. We've been together ever since and sometime next year he will be moving by me to be with me :) I wish everyone else good luck on their LDR. It will work if it's meant to be. The disance does get to you, but Ive learned how to just deal with it. And it definitely teaches you to love someone emotionally and by their personality. And you always usually have something to talk about if your lifestyles are different.

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